How My Daughter’s Love Has Shaped the Woman I Am Today
There was a time when my life revolved around my own wants and needs. But becoming a mother shifted everything. Suddenly, every choice I made wasn’t just about me anymore—it was about her future, her happiness, and the kind of example I wanted to set. She made me realize that my purpose isn’t just about personal success; it’s about creating a life filled with love, kindness, and wisdom that she can learn from. She’s my reason to push forward, to heal old wounds, to become the best version of myself—not just for me, but for her. I used to be my own worst critic, constantly feeling like I wasn’t doing enough, achieving enough, or being enough. But through her eyes, I see a different version of myself—the mom who tries, who loves fiercely, who shows up every single day. Her love has reminded me that I don’t have to be perfect to be enough. I just have to be present. More than anything, loving my daughter has made me intentional about the woman I am becoming. She is watching, learning, absorbing everything I do. And if I want her to grow into a strong, confident, and loving person, I have to embody that myself. Because of her, I: Love myself a little more, Set boundaries with confidence, Chase my dreams fearlessly, and Lead with kindness and compassion. She is my greatest teacher, my biggest motivation, and the purest love I have ever known. She didn’t just give me the title of “mother”—she gave me the opportunity to grow into the woman I was always meant to be. And for that, I will be forever grateful.
MOTHERHOOD
2/27/20251 min read
Love. Strength. Compassion
Childhood:
Everything about how I grew up was traditional. I had a two parent household, siblings, we stayed in a house with a backyard, and of course we had dogs. However nothing about what I dealt with was traditional. As a young child I saw and experienced so much trauma that I didn't know what normal was. Normal seemed like a fairy tale to me. I knew what I was going through was wrong but I was also a child so there wasn't anything I could do to change it. I particularly remember one night crying myself to sleep saying "I can't wait until l become a mother. I will love my child the way you are supposed to love a child"
Becoming a mother taught me so many lessons. The biggest lesson being that it didn't matter if I didn't want to be like my parents. If I didn't take the time to learn something different I was going to become just like them. One of my biggest regrets is not doing skin to skin with my daughter during the first two years of her life. I did everything I needed to do to take care of a child but there was no love, compassion, or even gentleness.
Fast forward 3 years and I am a new woman. Our relationship has been built on